How to Live Relationship as an Adventure in Loving, Committed, Authentic Connection

How to Live Relationship as an Adventure in Loving, Committed, Authentic Connection
By Janis Mccann, Ph.d.

Talk openly and frequently. Clarifying and requesting what you require, want or need, is essential for connected relating.

Transparency is the best policy. Avoid fabricating or hiding behind excuses. Discuss challenges: money, in-laws, children, parents, etc. Share goals and visions, hopes and dreams.

Listen to your partner and mirror while attempting to understand differing perceptions, perspectives or points of view
Do not make assumptions about your partner's intentions or behavior. Learn about and celebrate your differences.

Listen attentively and with curiosity instead of planning your defense strategy while your partner is sharing. Don't blame another for your positive or negative choices, or even the failure to make choices.

Do reframe faults into positives; express appreciations. Remember that viewing your partner in the best light increases attraction. Research demonstrates that couples need to have 5 positive interactions for every one negative to cultivate and maintain a positive relationship.

Explain what you thought and felt without assigning responsibility to your partner for your reactions. Expressing yourself without blame or judgment and acknowledging your differences is critical for the health of your relationship.

Feelings are important and deserve to be acknowledged. However, it is imperative not to react to whatever is triggered. Don't let your emotions dictate your behavior. If necessary, take a time out before you respond.

Open to the unfolding possibilities in your relationship.

To keep your partner interested and happy. add surprises, fun and novelty to the relationship Stay mentally, spiritually, and physically in good shape. Keep your sex appeal and the passion alive. Keep Sex Alive: stay sexy.

Drs. Janis and David Mccann

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